Signs you’re trying too hard.
Some people confuse pleasing people with kindness, hoping that saying yes to everything asked of them will help them feel accepted and liked. But “people pleasing” can be a serious problem and a hard habit to break, according to an article in Forbes magazine written by psychotherapist and author Amy Morin.
The problem can manifest itself in a multitude of ways, like pretending to agree with everyone and feeling responsible for how others feel. If you have this issue, you may find yourself apologizing often, being unable to say no and imitating others. The problem may stem from self-worth issues and, over time, become a way of life.
The article suggests getting out of the habit by saying “no” to something small. Expressing your opinion about something simple. Or taking a stand for something you believe in.
Each step you take will help you gain more confidence in your ability to be yourself. If you’re really struggling to let go of your people-pleasing habits, you should seek professional help, the author says.
It’s important, of course, to show your coworkers and your boss that you are agreeable and have a positive attitude. But being subservient could backfire, holding you back from your full potential. To learn more about the eagerness to please and the ways to correct it, read the full article.